Is it personal?

Nope. It’s just information. Whatever you’re looking at isn’t good or bad. It’s just information. And then, you give it meaning. 

People are funny. So many of the people I work with focus on the things that are missing in their lives. They judge themselves against others or they judge themselves against some standards that they had as wishes from a decade or more ago. “I thought I’d be further than this.”

You are where you are based on the previous decisions you made. Only in hindsight do you judge your decisions as good or bad. You might be proud of or slightly ashamed about some of the results you’re seeing in your life. Either way, you’re giving meaning to an otherwise neutral circumstance.

If you knew then what you know now… oh, the lament is real. And the truth is that you knew what you knew and you made decisions based on what you knew.  

Your results aren’t personal; they’re simply statements about the choices you made. And now, you get to make new choices. 

If you ordered something at a restaurant and you didn’t like what came out, you’d choose differently next time. I would hope that you wouldn’t sit through your meal or think about that meal for weeks after blaming yourself for ordering badly. That’s not personal. That’s information. And your response, “Nope, I won’t order that again.”

On the other hand, if you loved what came out, you’d double down, wanting to recreate that experience and that feeling. Would you take that personally? Okay, you might give that more meaning because you picked the restaurant, made the reservation, and ordered something that caught your eye. 

When we invest of ourselves, we tend to take things more personally. And that brings me back to reminding you that you give meaning to everything in your life. That’s not a bad thing. Just recognize that if you’re flogging yourself for something you did or something you don’t have right now, it’s time to refocus. 

What you’re seeing is neutral information. You have choices. You choose where to put your attention and what to create. You choose what to give meaning to. And you choose your power.

Keep making your magic and I’ll see you here next week!

If you want to take a deeper dive with me, I’d like to invite you to dig into how to get what you really want: how to have more, to do more, and to be more, without feeling exhausted. You want that creative spark back in your life and you know that you are so close to getting greater results. This is for you.

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Let’s do this!

= Wayne =